Lately a friend and I have been discussing highschool relationships, and the couples in our school. I argue the point that all of them are doomed, doomed from the start. Some of us haven't even physically developped as an adult, how does anyone expect themselves to be mentally developped enough at this age to have a real relationship, take it seriously, while still maintaining themselves and not compromising who they are? If I myself hadn't gone through this exact described situation I would deem it impossible. However maybe these doomed love birds need to go through the connection with another human being, and the loss of self in order to gain the maturity required to do the opposite. As I mentioned, that's what happened to me, and I like to think that now after a trainwreck longterm highschool relationship, I've got this figured out.
Problem is... not everyone makes it through all of these steps. We don't always care about the person enough to stick around after you've departed from the dating train.
What is wrong with society? Why are we living in a world that is practically cramming the subte concepts of polygamy down our throats? As teenagers we are expected (in the most watered down of ways) to care deeply for someone one day, and let go of them the next.
If you haven't noticed this allow me to elaborate.
It's not "he likes me" anymore.
it's "he likes me but he only wants to have sex, he likes me but he doesn't want a relationship, he likes me but he can't commit"
he likes me.. but....
We as teenagers are expected to accept this, to fool around with someone because "that's just what teenagers do" (it all started with a viscious cycle of which the origin is unknown). But note that... this fooling around should remain completely seperate from the possibility of developping feelings for the person.
You're no longer dating someone, you could be say... in an open relationship, you could be having a fling, you could be having a thing, you could be "together" but not "officically" ( fuck you facebook). things could be "complicated", why? Why can't things just be plain and simple?
Teenager Emotions are a very confusing and delicate aspect that only adds to the stress of highschool life.
Care about someone one day, but if the two of you ever break up, forget they existed. Period.
I am regrettful but also delighted to say I am not like this. Just another area of life where I do not fit the typical teenager mold so to speak.
Regardless of how much time you spend with a person, when specific romantic feelings arise, they should not decrease or increase the legitimacy of your connection to a person (note that I use the word connection rather than relationship).
So back to my beginning topic: couples. Are they doomed in highschool? Lets admit that the likelihood of the two highschool sweethearts staying together has decreased since our parents went to highschool. So what changed?
I mean besides everything, besides the technology? Or is it the technology, has technology somehow sneakily ruined our human connections with each other? I can't see any other logical explanation. What's next?
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